WHY MOVING OUT ON 10TH APRIL IS SO MISERABLE.

I went down to check on which date is good and advisable for us to move to the new flat. I was given dates of 28th march and 10th april. Instead of moving in on 28th march, due to some delay in some area, i decide to just move one the 10th. In the first place, 10th is a weekday and it's friday. Upon checking the calendar, it was Good Friday and a public holiday. I was so happy that i can move out finally. Before that, when i went to check on the dates, the person ask for my husband's and my year of birth, and what is our age. He can tell me that on 28th is a good date to move cause it's good for the both of us. There's no "BREAK" in chinese to the whole family. And our children are very smart, they will be working as someone big in the future. There is timing as well for moving. It's from 7-10am in the morning. Is 3 month chu 2 (in chinese).
I ask for another date just for in case if i was unable to move out one 28th. He search and flip through the book and saw 10th april.
It is 3 month chu 15 (in chinese). It is also a good date. Good for everyone and the same as "BREAK" is not present for moving house. The saying for the children are the same. Our kids are smart and etc. The timing is 7-8am in the morning and 3-6pm in the afternoon. Just that from 3-5pm we cannot fix up the bed. We can only fix and tidy the bed after 5pm.
I was so happy in the first place when i told him (DAVID) that 10th april is a Good Friday, a public holiday. I have the save message that said:
" Ya, can move but maybe he got work. ... ... "

Guess what, after telling me one week plus later, he came to tell me that it's the qing ming. It's 3 month chu 15. I don't really understand the lunat calendar. I told him i was wasting time and money and effort to go down to Shi Ma Lu to look for dates to move house. Just because it's qing ming ji i have to delay and wait until it's over then only i can move? Why can't he just listen to me and do things to make me happy. Having that 10th april is a good date to us. I asked him to go down with me next saturday morning to ask the person to explain to him again but he don't want. Why doesn't he give me a chance to let him know that 10th april is a good date to move for us? Is it that he don't dare? After marrying for one year, i don't feel so much happiness to what a married woman should get.

Qing ming is one day or for one whole month? I never get respect to what i do cause i'm not working and i'm not bringing back pay cheque home as well. Therefore i have no say in the house in the family, to me i just feel so EXTRA and did i make a wrong choice?

God please help me. I need help to get through with such a life..

One more thing his uncle who come over the house every saturday, doesn't have the right to kiss my daughter. I hate people kissing my daughter. This is the second time he kissed my daughter. I swear i won't allow him to carry my daughter anymore as long as i live. The first time he want to kiss her, he ask the father can kiss or not. The father is so... that he don't even know how to protect his own daughter. The father just sit down there quiet and let him kiss. How can he compare my relatives when i just meet up with him during occassions. And his uncle who will come over to yishun every saturday. After moving out, i will not come back on saturday to allow him to kiss my daughter anymore.

Guess you guys are shocked to see so much happenings. There are more and i'm trying to let go bit by bit for what his parents are doing. I respect them so i don't say them in the face. I won't do things like what he did to my parents. Though i might not like it at times but i try to close one eye now. I try to let things go with his parents but not others.

I have advise that it's misunderstanding and don't bother so much. Whatever he want to do then let him do lor. As a wife, i helped out to wash the floor of the new flat. It's so tiring for me. My arms are aching and i'm sleepy and tired. Did i complain anything? No cause it's my new flat. Whatever it takes i should just give up and bear with him until i work. And i swear i must earn as much as him and let him know that i don't have to listen to him or he should expect me to follow what he said.